Apr 9, 2021Dear White Family Member who Tone-Policed Me After 6 of My Asian Sisters Were Murdered by a Racist White Man Having a “Bad Day,” Who Blamed Asian Women for His “Sex Addiction” and Yes, I’m Still Very AngryContent Warning: 1) Discussion and images of violence against AAPI, 2) Silencing and tone-policing 3) Racism in the white families of transracial adoptees, 4) White feminism Dear White Family Member, I’ve been meaning to write to you regarding our Facebook interaction a couple weeks ago, but like you, I am exhausted. Like you, I’ve…Tone Policing20 min readTone Policing20 min read
Nov 16, 2020Listen to Adoptees: The Trauma of Transnational + Transracial AdoptionI am a transracial, transnational adoptee from Korea. I have come to be generally against this kind of adoption. I am not alone. Many of us in the TRA+TNA community have first hand experience with all sorts of white adoptive parents, from explicitly racist and abusive white parents to the…Transracial Adoption7 min readTransracial Adoption7 min read
Jul 30, 2017Power + Imagination: Addressing the Racism of Color BlindnessI have a clear memory of standing with my mom and little sister in front of a towering wall of dolls at Toys “R” Us that seemed to stretch across the entire back of the store and stand 15 shelves high. …Racism15 min readRacism15 min read
Jul 14, 2017Becoming Asian: My Immigrant Identity in the Age of TrumpI remember my naturalization day. I was just 5-years-old, and I did not understand the significance of the moment. Rather, the momentousness wholly resided in the special cookie my mom got me to celebrate, a treat the size of my face and covered with frosting. I needed two hands to…Asian American9 min readAsian American9 min read
Jul 14, 2017Becoming Asian: My Immigrant Identity in the Age of TrumpI remember my naturalization day. I was just 5-years-old, and I did not understand the significance of the moment. Rather, the momentousness wholly resided in the special cookie my mom got me to celebrate, a treat the size of my face and covered with frosting. I needed two hands to…Asian American9 min readAsian American9 min read
